The Great Admission

I used to be the best parent ever.
I knew the best way to calm a fussy baby.
I knew how to discipline a child with success.

And then, I had children.  Four of them, to be exact.

All of my great theories disappeared the day my first child was born.  
Because OH MY GOSH, children are hard to raise.  And there is no formula for success, as much as I really wish there were.  

The longer I'm a parent, the more I realize I have no idea what I am doing.
The more people ask me for advice, the more I say, "I have no idea, but I do pray a lot."  

So, friends, I ask you......

Could we all just admit we have no idea what we're doing??

We are ALL doing the best we know how, that's for sure.  And, believe me, I invest my life into my children.  But, in the end, I have no control how they will turn out.  

Having four kids has been the greatest gift in my life, because they are all so very different.  What works for one child fails miserably with another.  I have picky eaters and eaters that prefer fruit and veggies to chicken nuggets.  I have kids who are compliant and kids whose spiritual gift is arguing every single decision ever.  I have kids who make me look really good and kids who attempt to humiliate me on the regular (they aren't usually successful because my dignity left like two kids ago).  

The very prideful person I was before having children has been humbled A MILLION TIMES OVER.  
And I am 1000% better for it.  

So, moms and dads who feel like you have no idea what you're doing, but you're friends all seem to....I will let you in on a little secret: 

they're liars.  

They may pretend to have it all together.....and they may even feel like they do.....but I can promise you they do not.  Because it's too complex and too vast to ever really know what you're doing.    

So, moms and dads, who are fumbling through this child raising gig....wondering how the heck to do it well.... you're in good company.  And you're doing a way better job than you think.  




  

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  1. Jennifer CookJune 3, 2014 at 6:05 AM

    Awesome! Can I reblog this? Total credit to you...I mean Him. May God be glorifies as we are refined and truthful!

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